No one in college knows I used to write my own quotes in a medium-sized beige notebook that has brown spine. But, people from my high school knew about it. [Edit: I began this in 4th year high school.] I even let some people read through it. I wrote on it everyday. I brought it to class, I write on it before starting school work at night, and I read some of it before going to bed. It was my outlet of everything emotional and mental. But, mostly I wanted it to be inspirational and hope-filled. 

I wrote quotes from writers and quotes from movies. You could say I got the idea from Jamie’s mom in “A Walk to Remember”, which is still my favorite love story. 🙂

Anyway, I found that notebook again today. I was actually looking for a quote one of my friends texted me before (yes, I rewrite even long text messages into that notebook even if took me some time). But, instead of finding what I was looking for, I found this. I actually put dates & times, too. And this one, I wrote on April 17, 2012. 00:02 AM 

Dear, old self. What were you thinking & feeling when you wrote this? Well, whatever it was, I’m thankful now that you did.

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Happiness, Tom Walsh

I try very hard to learn from people who are unhappy, for I believe that they are the people who can best teach me how to be happy.  Ironically enough, these are often the people who put up the greatest facade of happiness–always bright and cheerful among company, but when you talk to them alone, you find a great deal of discontent or frustration or anger or discouragement.

I’ve found that happiness isn’t all that difficult.  It’s been very important for me to do several things on my path to happiness, and here they are, in no particular order:

Be true to myself, my principles, and my faith.  This faithfulness to myself keeps me from beating myself up over actions that I’m not proud of.  If i base my actions on principle and truly follow that principle, I won’t engage in the self-denigration that Ive seen so many others (especially alcoholics) engage in.

Give up the thoughts of being HAPPY.  Somehow our culture has turned happiness into this unobtainable permanently ecstatic state–a result of too many people in entertainment and advertising who have no idea of what happiness truly is trying to tell us how to be happy. They’re not the problem–the problem is, we listen.

Not worry about things or events.  As andy rooney says above, happiness has less to do with major events or the versions of success fed to us by unhappy people from Hollywood or Madison Avenue than with acceptance and awareness and appreciation of the little things in our lives, like this wonderful computer that allows me to build this website and share these great people’s words with so many others.  And it’s one of the cheaper computers, certainly not a top-of-the-line model.  But it does a great job, and I love it, and I don’t spend time wishing for anything more. 

Focus on others and their needs, without getting obsessive about it and robbing myself of quiet time and recreational time.  I’m useless to others if I’m not rested and in full command of my senses.  I work at balancing what I give of time and effort with what I need to keep going and to stay happy.  I often say yes when people ask me to help, but I often say no, too.  It depends on where I am and how it will affect other aspects of my life.  Some of the least happy people I know give so much of themselves that they’re always tired and cranky, and they often start resenting the very people they’re supposed to help.

Find my niches.  I would love to play the guitar and piano, but I’m not that good at either.  I am good at other things, so instead of spending tons of time trying to learn a little bit of everything, I try to focus on my strengths.  I can play chords on the guitar and enjoy it, but to spend hours and hours trying to get really good–well, there are plenty of great guitar players out there who can make up for my absence in the world of music.

All in all, I know that happiness is obtainable, and the first quotation of this page is a very telling one.  Ask yourself if you don’t have everything in your life that can make you happy, and then ask yourself if you’re happy.  Look at yourself through the eyes of someone who doesn’t have what you have–material goods, health, intelligence, ability, creativity–and hear that person telling you, “I would be so happy if I had only a part of what you have." 

And don’t answer, "Yes, but…”  answer, “You’re right–I do have many gifts.  I’ll try to be happy with them.”

Tom Walsh

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When bad waves are coming, what do you say to yourself?

Ako? Nagagalit ako sa mundo. Honestly. I get mad when things don’t go my way. As a Virgo, I’m a perfectionist. I like to see things in the proper order. When bad things happen, I become furious. I want things to be in the way I want them to be. Not in any form of chaos or whatsoever. The stupid thing is, sometimes, I don’t really work enough for what I want and still I expect a perfect output. In this aspect, I am very immature.

But the Bible tells us to remain calm and gentle in the face of turbulence. I have to admit this is a trait I am still trying to develop in myself. Yes, I pray. But most of the time, I do not surrender the problem to God. Instead, I do what I want to do and eventually, I make things even worse than they already are.

Does this happen to you,too? When you want to achieve something, you fail? When you want to succeed, something pulls you down? When things are doing good, eventually someone ruins your life for you?

The next time bad waves come your way, try to be calm so that you can think it through without doing much damage on yourself and on others, if anyone else is involved in your problem. Oftentimes, the best cure is to really just sleep it off and rest. Sometimes, you have to go to yours friends and ask for advice. Most often, you have to close your eyes and lift up to God the burden that is troubling you.

If you keep on praying and hoping that things will get better. They eventually will be.

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